Singleness Series (4): Discovering Your Purpose

Welcome to The Emmerance's Podcast, where empowerment meets self-discovery with your host, Emmerance Victoria Odia Ndala. In this enlightening episode, delve into the heart of singleness as Emmerance shares raw voice memos from her own journey at 23, exploring the profound significance of finding your "why."

Emmerance passionately delves into the essence of singleness, urging listeners to grasp the importance of understanding their purpose and values. Through candid reflections, she emphasizes the necessity of taking time for introspection, encouraging the cultivation of personal goals and aspirations. Whether it's jotting down dreams, creating vision boards, or simply pondering life's direction, Emmerance highlights the transformative power of self-awareness.

Drawing from her own experiences, Emmerance underscores the notion that knowing one's "why" serves as a guiding light, particularly in navigating relationships. She challenges the conventional narrative, asserting that singleness isn't merely a waiting period for romance but a profound opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

As the episode unfolds, Emmerance's wisdom shines through as she reminds listeners of their inherent worth and the importance of safeguarding their energy. Through heartfelt reflections and practical insights, she invites listeners to embrace meaningful connections, honour their journey, and prioritize self-care.

Tune in to The Emmerance's Podcast for an empowering exploration of singleness, self-discovery, and the transformative journey towards embracing your authentic self. Remember, self-first isn't selfish—it's essential.

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About Emmerance:

Emmerance Victoria Odia Ndala is a Self-Empowerment Coach, personal development blogger and Transformational speaker. She has been helping people with their self-love and personal development journey by being their coach or accountability partner.

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Chapters

• 0:00 Finding Your Why in Singleness
• 7:51 Reflection on Life and Meaningful Connections

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

It's either you're going to stay single forever or you're going to end up being with someone, but you want to know exactly who that person is and if that person goes with your goals, if that person can support your goals. This is the Emirates podcast, where we empower you to choose yourself, because there's no other human being that's more important in this world than you. This might sound selfish, but it's not. If you believe that choosing yourself is selfish, then I want you to know that self first isn't selfish, and I will tell you why. Hi guys, welcome back to another episode of the Emirates Podcast. I'm your host, emirates, victoria Odiandala, and today is singleness, part four. I am just sharing with you raw voice memos that I found on my phone back when I was 23 years old, and now I want you guys to know what was going on. Basically, this is the foundation of my podcast, and just re-listening to it and just giving it to you raw will kind of make you understand where my heart was when I started this podcast, and it's also reminding me of the initial goals that I had for myself and the stuff that I really wanted. And just before I put it on, I just wanna say voice memos are literally one thing that you can do if you cannot handle journaling. Just take your phone, hit record and record your thoughts away, and this is basically what I was doing. All right, so listen and enjoy. I'll see you after. Hi guys, today we are the 29th of February and it's our extra day in 2020. And this happens every four years. I think it's wonderful because it's an extra day to be grateful, anyway. So today, on my singleness journey, I'm gonna talk about finding your why. I feel like it's important whenever you get out of a relationship, or you've been in a long relationship, or whenever you just haven't been in that relationship, you need that moment of singleness to know your why. You know it's very important to know the purpose that you have on this earth, like why are you here? I mean, it's something that can come up when you're 40 years old 50. But it's good when you're like very young, around your 20s and 30s, to know exactly what do you want in life, what do you want your life to be and who you want to be with. Establish your, like. We were talking about values in the first article and it's the same thing, right? We have to know exactly who, what, why and how. Um, we want to do this because you know, you see, like either you're gonna stay single forever or you're going to end up being with someone, but you want to know exactly, um, who that person is and if that person goes with your goals, if that person can support your goals, if it be um supporting or is someone that's going to make you realize that, oh, like you are over, like you're thinking, or you're you're dreaming about things that are unrealistic, that's someone that's going to kill your vibe. You know, you just have to know because, um, it's very important, it's going to motivate you to be better, to be a better person in whatever you want to do.

Speaker 1: 3:55

And I feel like it's very important to take your time, just 30 minutes of your day, to think about these things. What I do sometimes is just I write my goals down, I write who I want to be, I create pictures, college like to motivate me, you know. So today it's going to be short. It's actually just two minutes. Well, that was a short one, but I said a lot.

Speaker 1: 4:24

One thing that I learned when I was doing these, I think, when I say in my article, I think I'm talking about the blog, my blog, emiratescom. That was where I started everything, and I did have an article talk about your why. To be honest, can you really do anything without knowing where you're going, like without having a goal? And that's basically your why. Right, when you are single, if you don't have a goal for your singleness outside of being in a relationship, what are you doing? You are not taking advantage of your singleness journey.

Speaker 1: 5:12

Knowing your goals, knowing where you're going, knowing that there are things that you have to do, and it's always. You know our brains are beautiful. The brain is just the smartest. You can be the smartest person out there if you choose to, basically, but what I'm trying to say here is that when you give your brain a goal, when you have a vision, when you have that image of who you want to be and how you want to be and who you want to be with and things like that, your brain will give you that like, it will look for it, and until it finds it, and until you also also know that that's the person, then your brain will keep looking. All right, you're going to have many people that are coming to you saying that you have, you know you're beautiful and stuff like that.

Speaker 1: 6:03

But in order for you to go deeper in that you know vetting process, when you're dating, you want to make sure that the person is fitting for that vision, for that why you know you're just not going to date anyone, you're just not going to be sleeping with anyone and you're not going to give your energy to just anyone. Right, you have to understand that it is a privilege to be with you. It is a beautiful position and you cannot just give it to anyone. So in order for you to make sure that you are looking for that right person, you have to literally know your why, your goals, everything that you want to do in life, like. You have to know not just for the year, for the for life. You have to sit down with yourself and think about these things. A beautiful book is know your why.

Speaker 1: 6:53

I think you know me. I'll going to, I'm going to add it in the description box, but yeah, and I also stand with what I was saying like, wow, I am very impressed with myself and I I'm just very like, like it's making me happy, because lately I haven't been in the right mindset that I would like to be and that's the reason why I took a social media break and I was thinking about coming back this week. Well, the week of I don't know what date, we are today, april 22nd. I was coming back today, but I'm like I don't know. I just I just feel like I need more time and right now I've I stumbled upon these voice messages and it's making me feel like I'm in the right path and that's why I would recommend doing these voice memos, journaling and stuff.

Speaker 1: 7:51

I have like plenty of journals with me and I like I have some that are full and some that are just not full, but whenever I reread them, I sometimes have tears because I am looking back and seeing myself like I did live that life, like that was me a long time ago, a few years ago, and this is me today, and me today will also be me in the past. Right, so life goes by quick, guys. Life goes by quick. Please live life in a meaningful way. Have meaningful connections. Connect with people that have the same mindset as you. Connect with people that have different point of view as you but are still respectful when they voice it. I just think life is really beautiful when you're looking at it that way and just making sure that you protect your energy. All right, so that was it for today, all right? Well, take care of yourself and remember self first. Isn't selfish? Bye, bye.